The beginning of a relationship is an exciting time. Discovering and getting to know each other can lead to developing a deeper connection of a longer term relationship. However, sometimes no matter how much you care about someone, or how much you want things to work out, the relationship just isn’t going anywhere. You may not feel like you are on the same page, or that you don’t seem to be growing together as a couple or as people. While this isn’t an exhaustive list, here are some of the signs that you are in a dead end relationship.
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You are at a party with a bunch of friends you haven’t seen in a while. You have been having fun catching up with some folks and head to get yourself an adult beverage and something to eat. That’s when it happens. Your guard is down, you’re relaxed and having a good time, and about to help yourself to some chips and guacamole when you hear the voice from over your shoulder. It’s a friend of a friend from high school, and she says: “Oh! I wish I could be like you and just eat what I want and not care about how I look!” You can almost hear people around you suck in air and tense up waiting for you to respond. You instantaneously feel redness rising in your checks as flaming anger flashes through your body. You were just on the receiving end of a zinger, shot, dig, and felt the cool breeze of shade thrown in your direction.
I spend the majority of my day doing two things: sitting and listening. Turns out most people are like me, as recent research conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows that 1 in 4, or 25%, of Americans spend more than 8 hours a day sitting. Across the country as well as internationally, women are more likely to be physically inactive than men. Those numbers demonstrate the need for women in particular to make getting exercise a priority in their busy lives.
I remember the first time I heard the word “diet.” I was about 7 years old. We had just had lunch with my mother and my grandparents at a local sandwich shop. After the meal, my brother and I were treated to “The Big Chipper” -- a humongous chocolate chip cookie. I remember sitting in the back seat of my grandparent’s Chevy Surburban happily enjoying my cookie, as it was pretty rare for us to go out to eat in those days, let alone get dessert. I was chewing away, swinging my feet to the music when all of a sudden I became aware that the adults were talking about me. My mother turned in her seat to look at me and said: “You are going on a diet!”
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AuthorDr. Kim Guarascio, PhD is a New York State Licensed Psychologist who has been providing treatment for teens, young adults and adults for nearly 20 years in Central New York. The focus of her professional career has been centered on the empowerment of women, particularly those who have experienced trauma and abuse. Archives
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